The Baby Bean Blog

Friday, April 29, 2005

Evil Message Board Women

I've been reading pregnancy message boards ever since I got pregnant. By and large, they're great. However, there are some women who just get on my nerves. There's one thread topic that particularly annoys me:

    Help....not gaining weight
    The message itself goes something like this, "I'm 20 weeks pregnant and I've only gained 3 pounds! The doctor says that the baby is fine and everything is fine. I eat all the time. Why oh why can't I gain weight?!"

Okay, bitch, do you want me to come over there and slap you? Why not post something like, "I've got too much money! What should I do with with it?!"

Really, what is the purpose of posting such a message? What can anyone say besides, "Eat more, stupid." Seems like the real point of these topics is to rub it in everyone else's face that you're not a big cow (and we are).

For the record, last time I checked (a week and a half ago), I'd put on 25 pounds. So there!

Thursday, April 28, 2005

24 Weeks: Crossing the Line

Today I am 24 weeks pregnant. This is significant because that means, well, a couple of things. For one, if (God forbid) something should happen to the baby, it's no longer considered a miscarriage. From this point on, it's a "preterm birth." The baby has a 15% chance of survival if (again God forbid) that should happen.

This date is also another marker. Yesterday, I could have had an abortion. Today, no. I mean, I could if my life was in danger, but solely based on my personal choice? No.

I am pro-choice, and if that offends some of you out there, well, you can't really be shocked to learn this about me. But even though that is my stand, and I'm firmly behind it, I have to admit that the thought that someone in my position could have aborted her baby a week ago--or even a day ago--is a bit disturbing. The baby can hear, react, move. Right now, the little bean is kicking me.

Monday, April 25, 2005

Making a List, Checking It Twice

I'm finally getting down to work with this whole baby thing. It's registry time! I've been putting it off for a long time because I was a little over-whelmed by it. All these products you need to get, and many, many of them have safety features that must be considered.

But I finally bit the bullet and started to make some decisions. And I bought the first item thus far for the baby: a little jacket from Hanna Andersson called a Danish Terry Jacket, which looks like this if you are curious:



I was putting it on the registry, and then I just decided that it was too cute and I must have it. Also, it's on sale so that leads me to believe that they might be discontinuing it. And I want it! So that was the first thing we've bought for the baby.

There's a lot, a lot, a lot of stuff to get. I'm not sure how much we're going to get from other people. I'm not having a shower. Sacriligious, I know. But look, kids, I'm just not a shower kind of girl. Not my scene. So we've accepted that we will probably end up with less bounty than if we had a shower. Luckily my partner gets a bonus from her job every year, and we've set that aside for baby stuff this year. So even if we don't get a lot of things from other people, we'll still be okay.

If any of you out there have children and would like to recommend a product that you feel you just couldn't have made it without, please let me know!

Friday, April 22, 2005

Note to Self

Do not mistakenly take dog's anti-depressant pill instead of your iron supplement. Something tells me that the midwife would frown on that.

Thursday, April 14, 2005

Baby's "Fun" New Game

I've been feeling the baby move for three weeks now. It's still really cool. Only, I wish that the little bean had not discovered my bladder. There's nothing quite like the feeling of a kick to the bladder from the inside.

I'll try to describe it to you, but I'm sure that these words strung together will not convey the truth of the experience. But it's sort of like this. Imagine your bladder. It's got some urine in it (it almost always does) but not enough to make you think that you need to go to the bathroom. In fact, you're not even aware that it's there. Now imagine that there's a little person inside of you, and the person puts their hand around your bladder and then squeezes it for a second. During the squeeze, you feel the urine being pushed down your ureatha. But it's only for a fraction of a second. Then it's gone, except that your eyes are open wider and your breathing has changed.

It's especially fun when the baby feels like it's bouncing on my bladder. I imagine it like a little water balloon that is irresistable. What's truly irresistable is that I must pee once this activity starts. Takes away baby's fun, I know, but my eyes can only bug out of my head so many times before I become afraid that they'll actually fall out of their sockets.

And that's what the little bean has been up to for the last couple of days.

Monday, April 11, 2005

My World of Pillows

It's true. My collection of pillows is the envy of all who see it. Of course, the only one who has seen it is my partner. Hence this post. I must distribute the information about my pillows so that others, too, can realize what's happened to my bedroom. Because, you see, I have too many pillows to use at one time. Not enough room on the bed. So they rotate through the night. But enough of that. It's detail time.

First of all, I have the standard feather pillow. Oh, I remember the days when this pillow was all I needed. I also have a body pillow from my pre-pregnancy days, but this pillow hasn't been used in weeks. Not sophisticated enough. My first new, fancy pillow was a "neck pillow" by Tempur-pedic:


This pillow has provided me a lot of shoulder relief. It's kind of weird to get used to, but I do like it. I usually switch between this pillow and another through the course of the night, though.

I also got this "backsaver pillow" at the same time. No, that's not me on it.



I had high hopes for the above pillow, but alas, I think it ended up hurting me more than helping me. It hasn't been on the bed for weeks.

Next, I decided to get the "comfort pillow" by Tempur-pedic:

This pillow looks like a regular pillow in the picture. But it's a little different because it's made of the Tempur-pedic material. I use this between my knees when I'm lying on my side. I also use it beneath my knees when I'm lying on my back. And, of course, I put my head on it too. Oh, and I also use it when I want to lie at an angle. So I'll put this pillow beneath me, from my shoulder to my hip, thereby "tipping" me to one side. That's supposed to be good for pregnant ladies, as opposed to just lying on your back. I find it a little weird feeling, so I don't do it much, especially since just lying on my back seems to be okay for now.

Then there was a brief break from pillow purchases. But I felt like I needed a better pillow for between my knees, and I've also started experiencing some heartburn. So I went ahead and got two new pillows just last week. The one for between my knees/legs is called the Isotonic Leg System and looks like this:


It's been okay so far. I like it because it provides support for the lower leg too, and it's not that big. Most "leg spacers" just go between the thighs, thereby allowing the weight of the lower leg to cause pressure.

And my final pillow (for now), is the Backsaver Grand Back Wedge:

In this picture, you're seeing it in its most upright, steepest position. It can also be put on its long side, thereby being at a less severe angle. And you can also unfold it to get an even gentler angle. I got this pillow to deal with the heartburn. Lying down flat is bad, bad, bad when you have heartburn. But I get the heartburn at night when I'm tired so I want to sleep. This pillow allows me to remain somewhat upright, to relieve the heartburn, but also sleep. And I used it last night just for another position to be in. It was quite nice.

And that, I think, concludes my presentation of all my pillows. We'll have to wait and see if I end up with any more as the pregnancy progresses....

Friday, April 08, 2005

Long Months, Long Trimester

When people think of a month, they generally think that a month has four weeks in it. This isn't actually true. 4weeks x 7days = 28days. Most months (7 out of 12) have 31 days in them. So a month is really almost 4.5weeks.

A woman is pregnant for 9 months. Actually, for 40 weeks. Let's have some math fun and figure out how that works.

If a month really had 4 weeks in it, that would mean 9months x 4weeks = 36weeks. That's not cutting it. We need to get 4 more weeks into it to add up to the 40 weeks of pregnancy. Now, if a month has 31 days instead of 28 (i.e. 4 weeks) that means that we are left with 3 extra days each month, or 9months x 3days = 27days, or just about 4weeks. The missing four weeks to be exact.

Since women do not often become pregnant on the 1st day of a month, the months of pregnancy are grouped into weeks. Five of those "months" contain 4 weeks: months 1, 3, 4, 7, and 9. The "missing" weeks are added onto months 2, 5, 6, and 8, making those "months" contain 5 weeks each.

This means that the second trimester is the longest trimester because two out of three months contain 5 weeks. The 5th month is going slowly for me. I've made it through the first four weeks of it, but I've got another week until I'm officially 5 months pregnant. And I've got another five week month ahead of me.

I guess they did it this way for a reason. The second trimester is often called the "golden trimester" and is supposed to be the one where the woman feels the best. During the first trimester, many women battle morning sickness and fatigue. The third trimester is getting to be pretty uncomfortable and sometimes painful. So it makes sense that they'd make the second trimester the longest one.

But it is a little frustrating. I'm ready to move on to the next month! I'm ready to cross this month off the calendar and be in the sixth month, which is one more closer to the seventh, the eighth, the ninth, and then the birth of my baby! Back when I was trying to conceive, FoxyMama made a comment about how impatient she was for her babies to be born already so that she could meet them. I didn't think I'd feel that way, but I do. In fact, that's exactly how I feel. I want to meet my baby bean, so let's get on with it!

Thursday, April 07, 2005

My Belly Button Ring

I have a belly button ring, and I know it's got to come out at some point. About a week ago, I noticed that my belly button is starting to stretch. It's still got its normal shape to it, but the inner creases are flattening. I'd read in a book somewhere that the thing to use was fishing line. So last weekend my partner and I were doing some shopping, and I saw a Dick's Sporting Goods, so we went in to check out fishing line. After sorting around through hundreds of spools of line, we found one that seemed almost as thick as my belly button ring. Not that my ring is thick at all. Just that fishing line is surprisingly thin. So thickest stuff we could find was 80lb fishing line.

It didn't have a price on it, so we took it to the counter in the hunting/fishing area where we were, and the guy looked at the spool and asked, "Going fishing? For whales?" It was kind of funny.

The next day at home, I took out my belly button ring and threaded in the fishing line. But the ends of it kept poking me. I wasn't sure how I would feel about that for the next 4.5 months. I'd read about some women using a flexible belly button ring, basically made of some sort of plastic with two balls on either end like a normal ring, but bendy. It sounded more comfortable, so I went down to the piercing shop with the best reputation in Philly, Infinite Body Piercing.

I wandered in and told the guy working there that I was pregnant and what I wanted. He said, "No. That isn't good for you." I said, "Why not?" He said that those types of rings were made of acrylic, and that the acrylic started breaking down immediately and was absorbed through the skin. Well, if that's the story, he's right: I don't want it. He also said that people usually just left in their metal ring for as long as possible, and that most made it to the seventh month or so, before taking it out.

Well, I guess we'll see. I like my belly button ring, but I'm not sure if I'll get it re-pierced if it closes.